Mother of the Bride or Groom? Letter from the Wedding Planner

                                      Mother's of the Wedding

Most mother's of the Bride or Groom for that matter; do not really shop for themselves until after the Caterer's, band's, Venue's, and everything is paid, Why? We, as mothers, want our perfections to have the best weddings money 'cannot' afford, taking our budget way overboard. Those dream weddings our cherished one wants, for the most part, are way too much; yes less is more in this case. As a wedding planner, may I say I have meet and worked against some of the best intentions money can afford. Yes, you heard me "against". As a planner, the bride and groom give us their dream wedding, not to be insulted, but not yours. Planners as placed in weddings to help the bride and groom achieve their day and to reject every add-on that comes our way in relative to best intentions. As a mother myself, it is hard to hear at times, but deep down we already know our children make their own catastrophes, so walk away. What we do not understand is that 'that' day is our time to shine as well; not meaning over shine your daughter or daughter in law but to stand back and enjoy the perfection you  created and savoir that moment in time for yourself as well. You are the creator of this 'masterpiece', or so it would seem, by the way we hover over our little angels all the way up until and sometimes after they get married, causing problems in both marriages along the way. We need to STOP and let go.

The first step is to find the dress that will make us shine as the parents we are, standing by the cherished ones we raised. Take a minute and think back to when you got engaged or your wedding oops'. We remember 'the over mothering' we got; now is not the time to give it back, it is the time to change our lifestyle to accommodate ourselves. Live our own lives and let go. Start that bucket list, before that though let's get through the wedding.


Mother of the Wedding Styles

Take a look at the newest fashions wise styles I have chosen for the everyday mother's of the wedding. Start looking for you something nice for a change; as the bride will be beaming more; knowing her mother is just as beautiful on her wedding day, as she is. No one wants a second hand mother looking like the bride overwhelmed her on the best day of their new life together in some cheap thrift store find. You need to look refreshed and calm when the wedding starts. Take the time to invest in yourself, with a new look, hairstyle; maybe even have a facial. These styles are easily manageable and move-ability is priority when it comes to weddings. Your and your husband take dancing lessons or maybe even a cruise before the wedding. Get back to being MOM & DAD. You are the Mother of the Wedding, Groom or Bride, it makes no difference. You need to make the best first impression to the new extended family, demonstrating the foundation from which your angel was raised upon. Nothing makes a more lasting impression then a marriage with a united front at a wedding.

Remember like graduation, you will only be in the moment for a blink of an eye:) Then they will spread their own wings and fly away once again but this time with the love of their life. It is a harsh task, being a parent but a task we each choice to take on from the beginning to our end. Take it in small breaths, with eyes wide open and arms always ready. Bright Blessings from a Wedding Planner & dedicated mother of three.

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